On Surrender: Let Go Of Attachment To The Outcome

Have you ever wanted something so badly you could taste it?

I mean that deep soul-level “I WANT THIS” desire. It could be a job, promotion, career change, sale, an accomplishment, a Big Goal you set for yourself. May it is fitting into those size 4 pants or landing a fully-rotated, technically-sound axel. Hell, it could even be a person.

Have you ever wanted something so badly that you strangled it right out of existence?

Some things I have wanted so badly that the mere thought of it made my heart race. That soul-moving, soul-shattering, life-changing desire that makes you bite your lip, squint your eyes, and think “I’ve got to make this happen.”

These are the desires most at risk of being squeezed so hard they pop right out of grasp.

It seems counter-intuitive that the best way to secure what you want is to release your attachment to the outcome. Yet, time and time again, I have witnessed this principle at work. In that moment of surrender, the moment when your desire is imprinted onto your heart, but the attachment to the outcome is released, that is the moment you know that you can and will accept however the dice fall.

It is that release that opens up the space for the desire to manifest into your life.

I was recently obsessing over a job I want. Treating it like a kitten, just trying to squeeze the purrs right out of it. It is a part-time gig doing something that feeds my soul. I had poured time and resources into learning about the job, studying materials, even creating materials so I could feel prepared to step into the role.

Finally, in a dire moment of discomfort, it hit me that I was past the point of healthy desire and truly half-past desperate. I literally LOL’ed, then proceeded to give myself the little pep talk that could.

“Jenni, wow, just wow. You know better than this. Ask the Universe for THIS or something better. This isn’t even like you – since when do you operate without a contingency plan?”

I sent the key language of ‘this, or something better‘ to the Universe. I sucked in a deep breath and assured me that no matter the outcome, I would be okay. Then I crafted a contingency plan in my head, somewhat shocked and appalled that I had not done so sooner.

In less than a week there was forward movement on my desire. At the writing of this post, it has not yet come to full fruition – but the makings of this dream are all present.

Boldly pursue your desires. Stamp them onto your heart. Step forward, step in, step up. Take every action you can in pursuit of your dreams.

Do not surrender your desires, but surrender the outcome. Let go of the attachment to how things will unfold. Trust the Universe, It’s got your back.

“Let go of attachment of how things are supposed to look, how things are supposed to be, how things are supposed to behave. You cannot thrive inside of the old ways anymore.” – Natalie Pescetti

“Relationships – of all kinds – are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely, with an open hand, the sand remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers. You may hold onto some of it, but most will be spilled. A relationship is like that. Held loosely, with respect to freedom for the other person, it is likely to remain intact. But hold too tightly, too possessively, and the relationship slips away and is lost.” – Kaleel Jamison