You Are Being Judged All Of The Time - Be You, Do What You Want, Give Them Something Real and Worthwhile To Judge!

Recently I felt subject to a lot of judgment, some of it rather hash. People talk, and words have a way of making their rounds. I knew in my heart that it wasn’t personal. Those people were having their own life experience, thinking the thoughts they were going to think, saying the things they were going to say. I don’t have control over that – of course, I do have control over how I choose to react. I had not felt so judged in a long time. I wasn’t really sure what to do with it.

I was beginning something new. So, I felt exposed and being met with judgment was exacerbating that rawness. Part of me felt unfairly treated, another part of me clung to the “it’s not personal” mantra. Part of me was hurt, part of me ponied up the ever-handy “Zero Fu*cks Given” mantra.

I pondered how I could show up in a way to ease the judgments. What could I say or do to smooth things out? What could I say or do to not be the subject of ridicule? What could I say or do to not be having such a shitty experience?

The Universe Sent Sage Words of Wisdom: it didn’t matter what I did or didn’t do, I was going to be judged regardless. I realized if it wasn’t X, then is was going to be Y. If people want to judge, or shit talk, or throw flack your way, they’ll find a reason – or create a reason. It’s always going to be something. Always.

So, you are going to be subject to judgment anyway — you may as well go forth with your bad self, your weird self! You may as well do it your way!

Play the weird music in your yoga class, tell the kids you love unicorns too, drive by your Rockstar-Crush’s house (a drive by or two isn’t technically stalking – always check the local penal code), wear your cat’s hair all over your clothing like the fucking glitter that it is, take yourself to a movie, squeal with delight out of sheer joy. Do the shit you want to do.

To be certain – we are all being judged, all of the time. So, take a chance on authentic living, really be yourself, and let’s give each other something fun, something real, something raw to judge.

“Rebellion is when you look society in the face and say ‘I understand who you want me to be, but I am going to show you who I actually am.'”

– Anthony Anexagorou